Updated: Oct 14, 2021
The womb is a gateway, a portal, for everything to enter you, and for everything to leave you. The following rituals are an invitation to deepen your connection with your womb space so that you can open to the guidance of all that is moving within.
Science is now discovering that we have more neurons firing in our belly than in our brains. There are in fact 72,000 nerve endings in our bellies, as opposed to 50,000 in the brain. This empirically shows that there is great value in investing time and energy into learning to listen, feel and translate the messages of our gut and womb.
As we begin to delve deeper into our relationship with our womb, not only as an organ that serves a physical purpose but as an energetic and spiritual centre, we unveil a conversation of womanly discernment, clarity and intuition. Whether it is the whisper of our inner voice or a deep groan from our primordial roots, our womb is communicating with us all of the time.
The way of the womb is for the woman who wants to be totally empowered as a woman, manifesting her soul mission and being able to have intimate, fulfilling sacred relationships, actively participating and engaging fully in the spontaneous joy and wave of life.
The womb is an honest mirror of the soul, serving to reveal and conceal the truth. Our inner work and soulful growth rely on our willingness to explore, with curiosity her depths.
There are innumerable ways to connect to our wombs and as always I invite you to find what feels good to you. In this post, I share seven simple rituals that inspire healing conversations with your womb and a list of questions to help you dive deeper into the energies stored in your womb that may be holding you back from living with more vibrance.
The video offers a deeper conversation about your womb and was recorded as part of a LIVE sharing in my private Facebook group. It couples perfectly with the rituals in this post and offers an experiential practice to explore the wisdom that is moving in your womb space.
May they be a doorway to deep listening and much needed tender loving care.
Basic Womb Connection Ritual
Check in to see how your body is responding to touch today. If it is welcomed you may like to take your hands to your lower abdomen. Bringing the forefingers together and the tips of the thumbs together, create a triangle. Place the tip of your forefingers on top of your pelvic bone, your thumbs just underneath your navel. This triangular space helps to map where your womb is resting in your pelvic bowl. Take a moment to feel into that space.
There are a few ways you can position your body, to start I suggest sitting up, positioning yourself on your throne, centred in your power. If it is comfortable for you bring the soles of your feet together and your knees widespread, elongate your spine and rest into your sit bones.
Close your eyes, breathe down into the space underneath your hands. Focus on the flow of breath moving in and out of your womb and the space around her. Just as you would with meditation take time here to really connect with sensations of breath as it contracts and expands with your pelvic bowl.
Notice any tension, any places where you are holding, tight, stiff, feeling heavy, contracted, numb, dense, expanded, soft, loose, bloated, swollen, spacious, tender. Feel, listen, breathe.
Let your breath be an invitation to continue to soften and release.
Womb Breathing Ritual
Following the above practice, begin to shift your awareness of your breath. Instead of noticing the breath moving in and around your pelvic bowl, now start to imagine your breath drawing up and into the womb as you inhale, releasing down and out of the womb as you exhale.
You may like to draw your pelvic floor muscles up as you breathe in. Imagine that you need to go to the toilet and you are clenching to stop yourself, that is the sensation of activating your pelvic floor muscles. Clench or tighten your pelvic floor muscle as you breathe in, soften and release them as you breathe out. Connect this rhythm of tightening and releasing with your breath as you imagine the life force drawing up and then releasing down.
Womb Toning Ritual
Have you ever heard the sounds of your womb? Yes, she has an inner voice that you can attune to, but if you allow her she also welcomes the opportunity to express herself vocally through you.
Once you have connected to your womb breath, open your mouth and allow a sound to arise spontaneously as you exhale. With each exhalation let a sound move up from your womb through you. Trust whatever sounds come out, avoid judging. Play with this for a while.
When you are ready begin to attune to the sound of your inhale. As you inhale, what sound does your womb make?
Play with these sounds, inhaling, exhaling, allowing the voice of your womb to express herself, notice what sensations arise in the rest of your body. Perhaps there are thoughts, emotions, stories, tingles, changes in temperature, tears, really notice what is moving. There is no need to label the sensation, just observe it as it moves through you.
Yoni Bathing Ritual
Laying on your back, knees spread wide and soles of your feet touching, open your womb and yoni to the sunshine. Welcome, all the vital energy of the sun inside you. Let it revitalise, nourish, warm and comfort you. Simply find a private place where you can take off your underwear and open your legs to the sun. Using the basic womb connection ritual, place your hands on your womb space and breath. Connect to the sensations of the sun and energy filling you, breath into the sun and the warmth.
Spending time in nature, naked is a powerful way of connecting to the Great Mother and your own body. You can incorporate all of the above rituals into this experience by finding a safe and uninterrupted place in nature where you can rest with ease. When you are comfortable and settled, take off your clothes. You may begin by squatting down, bringing your hips between your ankles, feeling the primal connection of your root centre with the earth.
You may like to sit or lay down, ideally placing your womb in contact with the earth. Allow yourself to embrace and be embraced by Mother Earth. This is so simple, but something we don't often do. Many of us have never been naked outdoors!
Once you feel your womb space being held and supported by the earth underneath you, begin to breathe into a vision of the great mother's womb. Imagine a place in nature that creates an opening deep into the centre of the earth. Allow yourself to venture there in your imagination, return to the womb from which all life is nourished.
Your moontime, if you still menstruate, is a powerful time for womb dialogue. All of the above rituals can help to set the sacred space in preparation for a blood ritual.
Depending on your intention a blood ritual can help to purify and cleanse, empower your manifestation and intention setting, help you to shed and release that which is no longer serving or even express gratitude for the life force flowing through you. The following are a few options you may like to explore, for all of them you will need to be able to capture your blood, a moon or luna cup makes this easy.
With your moon cup, dip your finger into your blood. Feel its texture, consistency, notice the colour of the blood against your skin. With one hand on your womb breathe into the life force that this blood carries and ask your highest self a question, just as you would with a deck of oracle cards. Pause and listen with all of your senses, it may be a feeling, word, colour, sound, just notice how your womb responds to your enquiry.
Depending on your intention for the ritual you may like to deepen the exploration by:
using your blood to anoint your third eye, to welcome to psychic wisdom and connect to the guidance of your ancestors, star nations, grandmother moon and womb through imagery.
painting symbols onto your face as you call on your womb to reveal that which you are ready to see or face.
drawing the shape of your womb onto your belly and ask your womb to fill it with symbols that will support your journey of healing.
intuiting a womb painting using your blood on paper and then bury the art (your blood will begin to smell after a couple of days so best not to create a masterpiece that you want to put on the fridge!)
Release, Renew, Give Thanks
Our blood is the shedding of that which is no longer needed to create life in our uterus, it is quite symbolic and when we use it as an intentional way of letting go it can be a powerful path towards acceptance.
You may like to collect your blood over a few days in a cup or sealed bottle. If it helps you may like to add some water to your blood to help it pour easily. Take your blood out into nature, there are a few ways you can do a releasing ritual, you may like to begin using any of the above connection rituals to help set the scene. With your hand on your womb, you can pour your blood onto the earth, a tree, the ocean, your vegetable patch... any place that resonates with you and your ritual.
While you are pouring be as present as possible to the connection between your womb and the earth, physically, spiritually, on all levels. Talk, pray, sing to nature. Explore what it is like to let your womb tone sounds as you pour your blood into the earth and let go of that which is no longer serving. Let the sounds moving through you be healing for you and mother earth. If it is night time, let your sounds be inspired by the moon.
You may like to honour your blood as the blood of the earth. You may like to give thanks for the gift of fertility. You may like to speak to that which you are ready to let go of, honouring how it once served you and your blessings for it to transform and move on.
Be curious and spontaneous, you don't have to have it planned out, you may just venture into nature with your cup of blood and be surprised by what organically wants to happen. Trust yourself, trust your womb to guide you.
Gentle touch can be a beautiful, restorative way to connect to your womb centre. Using the rituals above to make a connection, warm your hands and find a nourishing oil or massage balm that you can rub into your tummy. It is nice to invoke all of your senses, perhaps use an aromatherapy oil, light a candle, put some music on, really go to an effort to create a sacred space that you can rest into.
I have created a guided audio track to inspire a short womb massage. You are welcome to join me, or simply open to gentle, intuitive touch that helps to ease your nervous system and attune to your wombs guidance.
Questions to Deepen Your Conversation
The more in tune you become with the subtle voice of your womb the more you can turn to her for guidance, inspiration and discernment. However, in the early days of getting to know her, there may be a lot of stored emotion, memories, experiences (past life, ancestral and in this life) hidden in the darkness. It is helpful to delve bravely into some of the stories that have severed, divorced or broken your connection with your womb.
Yes, in some ways it is like opening pandora's box. You don't know what may arise, however, it is safe to say that the same energy that is motivating you to explore, is the same soul guided energy that says "you are ready to face whatever surfaces."
Embarking on this journey is a process of discovery and deepening. Through the following questions, you will be able to increase your sensitivity to your wombs voice and a place of inner knowing that helps you to navigate the depths of who you truly are.
Allow yourself to be surprised by what is revealed and concealed in this sacred energy centre of your body.
To begin, use the above rituals to make a connection with your womb space and let these questions drop down into her. Trust the guidance and response you receive, it may not come in words, it may be sensations, feelings, memories, visions or symbols - it may not seem like you are getting any response at first, just lean into her - TRUST.
Be present to the sensations, even if they are uncomfortable, they have a gift or insight for you.
What is the impact of my birth story? Do I know my birth story? What is the significance of this story in my life now and how does it resonate in my womb?
What was my mother's relationship like with her body and sexuality? What is my womb telling me about her experience? What do the stories and memories that she or others have shared with me feel like in my womb? How do they relate to the relationship I have with my body and sexuality now?
Do I carry the wounds of being mistreated or abused, sexually, emotionally or physically? What energy still resides in my womb from these experience?
Do I trust myself?
Do I trust other women?
Do I trust the masculine, totally?
How does the word TRUST feel in my womb?
Do I hold any unresolved grief for the loss of a child - abortion, miscarriage, stillbirth, death?
Do I hold hurt, sadness, grief, pain or anger that is out of proportion, in my womb?
Am I willing to acknowledge the ways that have mistreated and abused myself, through my inner dialogue and self-sabotaging behaviours? What internal conversations create contraction and blocked energy in my womb?
Do I allow myself to experience pleasure? Orgasms? Arousal? Sensual expression?
What does pleasure feel/sound like to me?
Am I comfortable making sounds during lovemaking?
What sounds are lurking in the darkness of my womb? Am I willing to explore them / release them?
There are many questions that can guide us deeper into the mysteries of our womb. I offer these as an opening to the myths, beliefs and attitudes that influence your relationship with your womb and centre of power. Having journeyed with these questions personally I can say that there are layers and you can go as deep as you allow yourself with them and revisit them whenever the call is there.
Creating a Ritual That Is Authentic to You
There is no right or wrong way to do any of these rituals. Everything I offer here is an invitation for exploration and an opportunity to notice what feels good for you. The most important thing is that you trust your own inner guidance and be willing and curious to see where it leads you.
We invest a great deal of time and energy in developing our intellect, and if we prioritised even 1/8th of that energy into the relationship we have with a womb we would notice an empowering shift in our ability to find more freedom and flow in our lives.
What is your womb saying to you today? Will you take a moment to pause and listen?
Want to continue the conversation? Join me over on the Sacred Self Podcast for an exploration into Mind, Heart and Womb and Embodied Decision Making Approach >
or share your questions and join me in LIVE Moon Rituals over in the Daily Alchemy women's circle on Facebook >